False Doctrine Backlash

I'm so very mad at Nabal right now. Pablo was finally located. He is in the hospital after a suicide attempt. Nabal was out with him Sunday. No one of them could see how desperate he was. Nabal drank with him, another young man who was coming to church until Nabal started drinking and partying with him gave Pablo cocaine and he failed a probation drug test. A lot of bad things just pushed this kid over the edge. I lay this, at least partly, at Nabal's door because he has preached to anyone who will listen that God does not care what you do as long as you are faithful about going to church. Not only does he preach and follow this philosophy, but he encourages all these young men to indulge in it. He leads them! This young man I heard really wants to get to know the Lord, but only found filth. Nabal makes fun of the people in his church who are trying to walk right in front of these boys. Points out that he is a better Christian.

This young fellow with the dead eyes who I have said I do not care for, while on a 3 day, wild drug and booze induced frenzy was out on the highway trying to preach the gospel... He wanted to fight anyone who disputed him. He has learned well from his teacher.Yet the zeal of youth made him go that step further.

So what was Nabal's reaction? He turned to me and asked could alcohol make someone act like this. I said yes. He then said that he knew many who drank far more and they didn't have these problems. I told him that everyone's different and some it kills quick, and some slowly. Left it at that. This though wasn't before he joked about the boy being stupid and all with a friend. He told me all the boy's woes and said it wasn't that bad. He was a pendejo. He was kinda mad. I guess he was, he knows deep down this could lead directly back to him in many people's mind. So... now he took a shower and dressed up and is headed off to the phyche ward to visit with Pablo. I hope they bar him. I hope the man can't have visitors. I hope the Lord leads real representatives of the gospel to him.

This young man, when he comes into his own could be the one who lets all the secrets out of Nabal's closet.

So Nabal's track record, all the young men he has taken to church who spend any amount of time with him are now much worse off then they were as people who knew nothing of God. They are all hopeless drunks and druggies. Really praying for this kid.

Nabal returned from the hospital and said stupid boy was asleep. He was annoyed. How dare a young man who hadn't slept in 3 or 4 days be asleep when he decided to visit. I just told Nabal that he had probably been sedated. This man has zero understanding except for himself and his mother. They are the only ones allowed sympathy unless Nabal sees the reasoning. Even his own children suffer from his cold foolishness. This past weekend our boy pulled a muscle in his 1st game. He went on to play 2 more games the next day with grown men. His leg hurt and we were talking about how to take care of it to not further injure it. Nabal starts with, "Mama, mama." in a high voice. Poking fun at the boy. "Whenever mama is around..." then really smarmy, " my leg hurts mama." "But when it's just daddy, there's nothing wrong." He went on and on about this. I worked on his muscle the day before and I know there is a strain. He thinks these things are funny. His mentality costs us a lot of money because my son can feel kinda bad and pretend to be alright. Then let whatever it is go until it needs immediate attention, which usually happen on a weekend... That kind of crap just cost us $600, when it could have been under $100. Nabal makes everyone feel like they are whining whenever they are sick. Our girl silently goes into her room if she's sick so she won't have to hear him. Nabal won't go into her room and bother her, but he will go into our boy's room and give a load of crap. He once, while I was sick looked at me and fixed his mouth to say that I was always sick. I asked him to back that up with some evidence. He thought, then had to admit that that I rarely get sick even twice a year. He turned on his heels and walked away.

So with all this Nabal doesn't let it cut into his womanizing. The text he forgot to erase after he got drunk: U look good the way u fix u hair!!! To Mary the Shell station cashier at 7:51pm. Every time I start to feel even the least bit sorry for him. (translates to codependency feelings) He always comes through to sharpen my resolve. I am starting to think that because I have let things ride until I get myself together that Nabal is thinking that I will go on living like this. Him and his mistresses and me just turning a blind eye. Either that or he is getting his sure thing set up before I get legs under me. He keeps telling me that I don't have to work. All this training at something I love! Yeah... he knows.