Would Cry, If I Could

Nabal put new toilets in upstairs- good! He found it was leaking through the floor before I got back...but did nothing-Bad.

Bought a different toilet for upstairs main bathroom (new one there to move to basement.) I was going to switch then out, yes I worked with plumbers and helped them set toilets... It's a recurring problem with crushed wax rings while setting when Nabal and his brothers set toilets. He rushes in, I hear them on the steps. Not them, but him...alone with the toilet. FYI: When you tilt a toilet, the trap empties, out the bottom. Why you have to have two people when taking one down steps.

Why didn't he ask for help? From me? From his nephew who is here, from one of his guys? Nope, says he's wondering where the water is coming from... I told him you can't tilt the toilet or water will get all over the place...

Now the basement stair carpet- soaked with toilet water. He says he'll get it. Finally laid out a trash bag for him to set it on. Damage control at the end.

And, nothing to do with this...The hot water heater valve is leaking. Lovely! The house falls apart instead of me. Once he's gone, I'll go get a new valve and quietly replace it... Never ending!

It's got to be the alcoholism that lets a man allow toilet water to drip into a downstairs basement bath for a week and a half without fixing it- because he didn't have time. He told me about it when he was drunk.

Why don't I leave? His newest line when I decline his advances to 'put our marriage back together.' Is to tell me he wants to go kill someone...because he feels like being bad without me. Yup- fear.

Alcoholism

Nabal, lays passed out on the basement floor in urine soaked pants. He went to a wedding, well to the party since he left after 8 pm. Evidently he lost his car keys...and his weed. Only keys he had to the truck. Thank God he lost those keys. He came in to try yet again to plead his undying love- "Hey, can I get a lil pu$$¥? You know I love you...I cry so much for you, but you think I'm a bad boy. Maybe I'll leave." He missed the sofa where I sleep just for this reason- and ended up on the floor.

"No one likes me when I'm drunk. I'm the nicest person. I'm not going to F (you get the picture) with then anymore!"

Thank God he lost his keys. Maybe someone saw how drunk he was and hid them. I did something today I haven't really been able to do in a long time- I prayed for him. Thank God he lost his keys- he could have killed someone.

I had a class out west last week, and my married child was coming into town for his job. Nabal decided to make a trip to Mexico. He needed to see his mom, it was what he needed to get better. His words: living like this is killing me.

I went on the way to class and remembered how much I like his family. I left shortly then all heck broke loose.

Nabal spent his entire visit drunk. He drank when he opened his eyes in the morning until he passed out at night. He upset his family, his mother. He told her it was all her fault for being a bad mom... Because she was trying to plead with him to stop. He went dancing, because his cousins couldn't stop him from accompanying them. He flirted outrageously with his younger brother's wife. He tried to pick up a woman- and take her to a hotel. Then regaled his cousin with the story the next day, while interjecting how much he loved his wife. Unfortunately his cousin is recently divorced due to cheating...

His mother was devastated by his words. He went just to see her because she's ages so... I'll bet he just wanted to stop her from lecturing him about his drinking- yup, alcohol isn't first love- it's the only love. 

He tried to fight his niece's boyfriend... Just really upset the niece. 

Needless to say, his family was in shock with the escalation of his drinking.