Our boy could not take Nabal's ways and moved in with a friend for a while. Seems Nabal gave him some big lecture about doing stupid stuff and buckling down this year... Not like a normal father, but like the boy has not cleaned up his act this year. The child has 3 AP classes, and was showing Nabal one of his books. Nabal was holding that very book and telling the boy he had to leave this stupid stuff alone and concentrate on his school work. The boy told Nabal this was one of his books for AP History and all Nabal said was, "Oh." This child is a new kid this year and it's like Nabal never noticed. He doesn't notice much... The whole talk of him making the boy give up his instrument was also frustrating for the child along with all his drunken, cheating antics. Just a lot of frustration. The child did this last year after the summer of drunkenness. He should be back in a week once he has had a breather, and get settled into the school year without Nabal's harassment. This is projection at it's finest. Nabal starts things- school, learning drums, guitar; but never follows through. His speech to me tonight was, " that boy can't handle his work and gets mad." Another thing is that the boy wants to drop Spanish and take Chinese and he thinks his father will be mad.
I understand the boy's frustration. I will tell Nabal I'm leaving the house to do something, he will call me several hours later and question me as to whether I did it. Like he sent me to do it and I may have forgotten... It's frustrating, when he isn't drinking he acts like we are all unable to get along without his prodding. I don't mind the asking, it's the tone of voice. Also there is Nabal's thing about never having to tell anyone where he is going because he is a man and answers to no one.
Nabal was, as far as I can tell, not drinking tonight and was walking around saying he had to go,but there was too much for him to leave tonight. Aw hell, We could loose everything... I know when he goes he will not be back and we won't see any money. I have a lot to do fast. God please let me just finish school and get the job I put in for! 5 months is all I need. At least I do have a room I can rent. But I still don't think I will be able to make it with that. I have to look into renting the house and moving somewhere else I can afford. Maybe it's just an idle threat, but he was sober. So, only God knows. Part of his frustration is that I want to tell him so bad that the boy left because of his drinking and the way he frustrates people, but nothing is ever his fault. When the boy left last night Nabal started blaming me. More interested in blaming that finding out where the boy was.
This is part our fault... I will admit this. We have since he has so frequently threatened to leave pulled our ranks together. He has hurt us all so much over the years.
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