Wednesday: Nabal's Antics

Where do I begin... Tonight he's not drunk, he's accompanying the pastor who domestically abuses his wife to pick up said wife's parents at the airport about 2 hours away. All dresses for church and butter wouldn't melt in his mouth. Come asking me for a goodbye kiss. Told him no and to leave me alone! Our girl was going to the next state over about 2.5 hours away. I personally think its good for the kids to get away, see and visit with friends. Nabal on the other hand wanted to know why she had to leave and visit other people. I'm thinking this speaks to his need to possess and control. She was visiting another young lady and her family, not some people you wouldn't want your kids around. Poor girl sits here in her room, works and goes to the same few places there are here in this rut of a town. Actually said it to her face, "Why does she have to go visit there?" What a jerk! I knew in that moment how I got so isolated...he won't deny you doing something or going some place, what he will do is whiningly register his displeasure. Which will make you think twice the next time you get a notion to go somewhere or see someone. Last week I was talking on the phone to a lifelong girlfriend who I don't see much. Nabal came down to the basement stinking drunk. I mean stinking, could smell h in the kitchen halfway up the basement stairs... He starts a conversation even though he sees I'm talking on the phone. I told h I'd come up later to get rid of him. Then he asks who I'm talking with. I replied an old friend. He demands, "Name?" Me: Excuse me? Nabal: "Name?" Me: "No one you would know." Nabal: "What's the name?" I finally got tired and named the woman I was talking to. Bad mistake on Nabal's part... My friend is a cop and heard it all! He really thinks he knows me, he knows the me he has invented so he can justify his treatment... I'm just a stand in for whoever he has in his head. The other day he was complaining again how he hadn't eaten all day. (broken record..) I asked him why he didn't buy something. Says he's broke, al the time broke! Funny he has enough money for as many 6 packs as he wants. But never enough for real food for lunch... Nabal screwed up his lie about living in another zone so the kids could go to school on another zone. My oldest graduated and at the time there were slots for the other to go to their school from our house. No takers. The kids don't understand at times why I don't want to deal with Nabal. Well, he set it all up and somehow screwed it all up. He had to fix it, was whining and hinting that I should figure out a way to do it for him. Prove he lived elsewhere... Complained he'd have to take off work. He finally did go and used that to complain about why he had to: go without eating, not finish a job, drive and spend gas. His lie. I never did like the idea. But he does create messes and drama then find ways for me to fix it for him. then complains how it's done... I'm done with his messes...and drama